Baby/Babies fussy when nursing

Posted on August 18, 2017. Filed under: Breastfeeding multiplies, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , |

Sometimes one or more babies can be fussy when put to the breast.  There could be several reasons why:  not really ready to feed even though the length from the last feed is reasonable; feeding position may be causing baby to have gas pain; too much distraction in the room; initially a heavy milk let down which baby is unable to tolerate; to name a few possibilities.

If one or more is latching, then popping off the breast, maybe arching their back, or difficult to settle into a feed on an ongoing basis, there are a couple of things you can try which may help out. Nurse in a quiet room, with a low light and some soothing music or sound machine (birds or running water sounds).  Nurse skin to skin.  Some Moms have success nursing a fussy baby/babies while in the bath.  If you try the latter, you may probably need to have some help nearby to hand you the babies to nurse and then take away for drying and dressing after their feed.

If you wish to know if the babies are transferring enough milk at each feed, you can try a weighted feed.  Weigh each baby before the feed and record their weights (you can easily keep track of the details on the Jumelle the Best Twin and Baby Tracking App available on  Weigh each baby again right after their feed and by comparing the two weights, you can tell if each baby is transferring an appropriate amount. Remember, because they are different children, the amounts won’t necessarily be the exactly same.

If the fussiness continues over several days, or the baby/babies are not transferring enough milk, check things out with their doctor and/or a certified lactation consultant to be sure that there are not any underlying issues which need addressing (e.g. baby frustration due to a tongue/lip tie).



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I feel sad about breast feeding…..

Posted on May 1, 2017. Filed under: Breastfeeding multiplies, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Let me clarify.  I feel sad because some women seem to need to loudly, strongly, rightly and aggressively defend their desire to breastfeed until forever, or nurse in public for that matter.  My sadness comes from the”aggressively” part.  I think women and their children have a right to breast feed as long as it works for them without judgement, harassment or any negativity whatsoever.  I believe a nursing woman has the right to breast feed whenever and wherever she or her baby or babies need, as long as the location is safe for all.  Preferably not while a climbing a cliff, as an example.  LOL Adults eat in public, why shouldn’t babies and infants have the same rights and expectations?

I like to think that I am a bridge builder and a teacher.  My problem is when a woman begins to fight and declare her, and her child’s rights, even before there is a battle to be fought.  That attitude is not a teaching one nor a bridge-building one and, in fact, most encounters will end up with no winners.  If you go looking for trouble, trust me, you will find it.

I would suggest waiting until each and every obstacle presents itself and gently stopping the person and asking them to come on board and be a part of a solution and not a part of a problem.  Start with family and friends and explain, each and every time, that this is what your family has chosen and you would love them to be positive throughout this journey.  Stopping negativity in a loving, caring, teaching way is the goal.  There will always be someone who objects, shouts, judges, declares, and lots of other things, but we don’t have to play that game.  We do not have to roar, respond, justify, give tit or tat (pardon the pun).  As Michelle Obama says “When they go low, we go high.”  When one walks with a Big Stick, one risks tripping over it.

It saddens me that women angrily anticipate negativity about nursing in public or the age their children should be weaned at.  It isn’t any one else’s business but that particular family’s and whatever that family chooses in regards to breastfeeding won’t change what you have for supper, so don’t fight BEFORE there is a fight.  Do what women do best:  Teach, show patience, tolerance, love, smile, be firm and gentle.  All of this goes along with, IMO, tons of strength.

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Can I mix bottles of breastmilk?

Posted on April 16, 2017. Filed under: Breastfeeding multiplies, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , |

Breastmilk can be mixed together from two different pumpings, as long as the milk is the same temperature.  So, if you have some bottled milk stored in the fridge and wish to add a new batch, wait until the new batch has been cooled in the fridge then mix the two batches together.  The new, warmer milk should not be mixed with the colder stored milk.

You will notice that breastmilk will separate into two layers.  The fatter part of the breastmilk has risen to the top the same as when we have whole cow’s milk and the cream rises to the top.  A quick shake before using mixes it all together again.


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Driving While Pumping = Distracted Driving

Posted on March 27, 2017. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , |

Apparently some breastfeeding Moms are trying to save some time and pumping on their way to work.  I checked with the Ontario Provincial Police (OPP) Department and was told that this is distracted driving and the fine would be $400.00 if a woman was stopped and found to be pumping as well as driving.

Please reconsider this practice and keep safe while also ensuring those around you remain safe too.

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Pumping While Driving = Distracted Driving

Posted on March 27, 2017. Filed under: Breastfeeding multiplies, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , |

Apparently some breastfeeding Moms are trying to save some time and pumping on their way to work.  I checked with the Ontario Provincial Police (OPP) Department and was told that this is distracted driving and the fine would be $400.00 if a woman was stopped and found to be pumping as well as driving.

Please reconsider this practice and keep safe while also ensuring those around you remain safe too.

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One Breast is More Productive than the Other

Posted on March 26, 2017. Filed under: Breastfeeding multiplies, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , |

If at any point you are worried about any aspect of your nursing situation, check things out with a CERTIFIED lactation consultant.  

It is common for women to have one breast which is more productive than the other. There is nothing at all wrong with you if this is the case for you.  The differences in production came be slight to quite dramatic.  There are some strategies for handling the difference.

~one baby can be a better sucker than his sibling(s).  Put this baby on the lower producing breast at a feed so that he can remove as much of the available milk as possible from this breast.  Baby B can go on the other and no doubt take advantage of the simultaneous let down.  Baby A can be transferred to the better producing breast for the rest of the feed when his brother is finished, should he still need to nurse.

~when pumping, use a hospital-grade strength pump.  These, with a stronger motor, are usually not for sale but can often be rented/borrowed from a hospital.  Use the hospital-grade pump for pumping both breasts.

~continue to nurse the babies and/or pump at regular intervals, including through the night as if feeding a baby, keep your fluid levels up and stress levels as lows as possible.  All three of these affect production.


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Posted on March 20, 2017. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , |

Some folks are under the impression that a woman cannot get pregnant as long as she is breastfeeding. This is an Old Wives’ Tale. You sure can get pregnant while breastfeeding. Look to other means of birth control should you not wish to get pregnant.

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Posted on March 7, 2017. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , |


New infants often fall asleep at the breast before their tummies are full. They need to be woken and encouraged to drink further or you will be back at nursing within a half hour or so.

The lactating breast is never “empty.” It is just “less full.” If you pump after nursing, getting 1/4 to 1/2 ounce is good and it all adds up over time.

It is not unusual to have a good sucker and a fussier sucker. Put the good sucker on first when simultaneously feeding and then spend more time adjusting the fussier baby.

Breastfeeding automatically makes Mom thirsty. Make sure you have a cold drink beside you prior to beginning. Hot drinks can be easily knocked over. Don’t take the risk.

Babies suck about 10-12 minutes and then they are full. Nursing for 15 minutes or longer, well, they aren’t really sucking that whole time but more likely enjoying the position, warmth and Mom’s loving arms.

Nursing babies are full when they begin to relax at the breast. A clenched hand may open and gently rest on the breast, face relaxes, mouth opens and baby falls off.

Healthy, nursing babies generally have one dirty diaper plus 5 or 6 very wet ones in 24 hours. That is how you know they are getting enough nourishment.

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Jumelle Twin, Triplet and More Baby Tracking App is Updated!!

Posted on March 5, 2017. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , |


Updated and Refreshed.    Easily keep track of which baby did what, when and for how long. Take a picture of each baby, upload it, fill in each babies’ birth date, add details you wish and keep track of what is happening. Especially important should one of the babies is on medication(s) and there are several caretakers (other parent, grandparents, day care, baby sitter). Hints and Tips re breastfeeding and getting through the first six weeks. Available from the App Store and from my Web Site at

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Breastfeeding in Public Challenges

Posted on April 1, 2014. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

I wanted to comment on a local news story and was drawn to a halt by the fact that it now seems to be untrue.  I decided to move forward nevertheless because even though this particular story may not be true, it is true that breastfeeding in public can produce quite the negative stir.   At the height of the story, our local CTV news station ran a poll and asked:  “Does breastfeeding in public make you feel uncomfortable?”  While we do not know how many people responded, their gender, age or life’s circumstance (i.e. childless or not), the results were, for myself, surprising:  60% were OK and 40% were “uncomfortable.”  Not that far from half the respondents had “uncomfortable” feelings about seeing a mother breastfeeding her baby.  How sad.  We have a long way to go to be able to publicly breastfeed without judgment, possible negative harassment and shame.  It certainly has been my experience with any breastfeeding woman and baby I have witnessed, Mom has been discrete, calm, only focused on the task at hand and most placed a blanket over baby and her shoulder.  Literally, there was nothing to see or take offence to!!  Recently at a train station, I watched a woman breastfeed her young baby quietly, efficiently and without fanfare or ado.  How anyone could perceive what was going on as “uncomfortable” or offensive is beyond me.   I witnessed love, being available, caring, comfort, gentleness, and necessity.  I have never yet, and I am a senior, been subjected to a nursing woman who made a spectacle of herself, who flaunted or drew unwanted attention to the breastfeeding.  I feel safe in suggesting that if there are any negative feelings they are those felt by the viewer and projected onto the mother, rather than the viewer taking ownership of his or her (yes, some of the negative comments come from women against women) “uncomfortable” feelings.  It would be so helpful if “uncomfortable” viewers would take responsibility for their suspect feelings (and perhaps look at why they feel “uncomfortable” – but that is another story) and focus on a natural, normal occurrence in which the most vulnerable (and our future) in our society are nourished and comforted.  It is as it should be.  I would wonder if those same viewers also make charges against the skimpy outfits and lingerie that society is constantly subjected to in magazines, billboard, TV advertising and shows?
It is said that a picture speaks a thousand words.  I remember seeing a photo several years ago and while I have searched around for it again, I cannot locate a copy of it.  As my recollection goes, Che Guevara  (a politician from Argentina, now deceased) was at a political rally and animately carrying on a conversation with a mother.  Both were staring into each other eyes, focused on making whatever their political point was and, from the body language, not really agreeing with each other.  What was most astounding (by North American standards) and meaningful was that the woman had a toddler at her breast and he was feeding contentedly.   The photo, IMO, was powerfully focused on two people with opposite opinions each intent on making their point and one of them was, incidentally, breastfeeding her baby, a natural and accepted occurrence in Argentina.  There are many areas in the world who are strides ahead of what is be deemed “uncomfortable” in North America.
Here’s an overview of the story which was recently in our local news:
You may have been following the story about the woman in the Ottawa Ikea store who was breastfeeding her 9-month old in the check-out line.  Apparently Mom, her baby and 2-year old and a friend had gone to Ikea, made their selections and at the cash there needed to be a price check.  After some minutes, the little one began to fuss, so Mom, as was usual for them, began to breastfeed to help sooth her baby while they waited for someone to complete their price check.  The story continues that a supervisor came to the mother in line and said to Mom she had would provide the price when she finished her “disgusting” behaviour and “why didn’t she take it to the bathroom as she was holding up the line?”  Both Mom and her friend were taken aback by these nasty comments on nursing her baby and Mom filed a complaint with Ikea as well as went to the press.   As an aside, Mom reports that her 2-year old, whom she was also still nursing, would not nurse that evening as he went to bed and was their ritual.  He cried and said it was “yucky.”  It took some time to settle him that night.
Ikea issued an apology to Mom, offered a gift  pack to the toddler son and stated that women are welcome to breastfeed their babies in any area of their store.  The Ikea employee who made the initial statements has apparently not yet been identified and Ikea was making an effort to track her down.
An update on Ikea’s side of the story:  After extensively reviewing their tapes, Ikea reported being able to identify the mother and her children going through the cash.  She did not breastfeed her child at all, from the tapes, nor engage an employee to do a price check for her.  In short, they feel the alleged altercation did not happen.  Nevertheless, this past Sunday, there was a sit-in at Ikea of about 20 breastfeeding Moms, several of whom stated that the story was not as important as the fact that there are many places in Ottawa were breastfeeding in a public area is not accepted, and this story has raised an important issue so they were taking advantage of the chance to raise the profile of breastfeeding in public.  A couple of Moms noted that Ikea is a welcoming store and they have previously breastfed their baby in the store without incident.
There is a caveat here though:  it is a challenge to breastfeed two babies at a time in public and quite likely that there will be greater breast exposure on Mom’s part.  It could even be a proposed Olympic sport to then place a blanket over two nursing babies when both arms are already full.  Having said all of that, one has to do what one needs to do.  One twin Mom shared that both of her babies were fussing while they were at the mall and she needed to quickly find a quiet place to feed them.  She chose a bench in a corner where she thought they would not be too conspicuous.  She just got both babies latched when an older man “marched over” towards them, mouth set and teeth clenched.  Before he could open his mouth, she reportedly said:  “I’ve got two hungry babies and two breasts – you do the math!”  The fellow backed down, tusked, and walked away.  Mom still felt bullied, picked on and embarrassed.  This type of even wordless guilt trip shouldn’t happen to any nursing mother.
An important issues about simultaneously feeding two babies is that they are safely held and not in any danger of being dropped.  At home it can be easily assured that all is in place to ensure babies are safely held for a simultaneous feed.  In public, there could be a higher anxiety level on the part of Mom regarding feeding two fussy babies, quickly picked up on by the babies, as is their ability, and if this is the case, add to any possible challenges.  Removing yourself to a designated or friendly feeding area of the public space could help everyone relax, ensure babies are held safely and easily fed.  If Mom is self-conscious about having to breastfeed two and the babies begin squirming, they can be a challenge to safely hold.   Do take care.
I would like to offer another piece of advice if I may.  If you are breastfeeding in public and subjected to judgement, criticism or negative posture, try not to argue back in kind.  Responding negatively has the power to escalate the interaction.  Try to keep calm, perhaps look at the person, smile, make some eye contact and smile some more.  Being non-defensive can defuse a situation.  You are the best judge for the situation you are in, but if suitable cut them off – you do not have to listen to mean, nasty judgement or bad language – and quietly ask them to keep their voice down as it is disturbing the babies or you might say you will discuss things with them only when you are finished, now your focus is your babies and you need cooperation.   When the babies are safely finished and back in the stroller, you can then simply walk away.  You are not required to justify your choices, especially to someone who does not feel the need to understand.  The object would be to defuse the interaction so that you and your babies can safely walk away.  Responding may also lead you to say something you will regret or bursting into tears and still not liking how it ended.  Each situation will need to be handled as you see fit, but keeping calm, maybe focusing on the babies feeding and humming to them, will help you get to a time when you can leave.  I sincerely hope that you are not ever faced with anything belligerent.
Do you have any thoughts that you might like to share?  Have you been challenged about breastfeeding in public, even with a singleton?  What did you do?  How did you handle it?  Where did you feed?  Where there any store or mall employees who might have come to your support?  How did you feel if you were challenged?  What do you think would have helped you and your babies to have a more relaxing experience?  If you have a story to share you can reach me at

Reprinted with permission in #14-03:  The MilkyWay, Multiple Births Canada’s Breastfeeding Support Network e-newsletter 


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