The Individuals Within the Group

Posted on May 6, 2017. Filed under: Multiple Birth, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Our multiples all arrive at the same time (obviously).  Not so obviously, because they have (inadvertently) been identified as a group because of their births, they are also individuals within the group.   They are not a package and you, as the parents, have the capability to make sure that their individuality is also celebrated.   Some great hints to encourage their individuality while also respecting their special and unique bond, are following.

If you have any ways you helped encourage your babies’ individuality, please let us know.  

~Don’t give them rhyming names, or even names beginning with the same letter.         ~Don’t continually dress them alike.  Once is a while won’t hurt, but not continually.         ~Have a Baby Book and Photo Albums PER child.  Otherwise, who does the one book belong to?                                                                                                                                                 ~Always have a birthday cake PER child                                                                               ~Always sing Happy Birthday PER child                                                                       ~Encourage family and friends not to send cards for Twins.  Who opens the card?  Who owns the one card?  WW3 could start here.                                                                              ~Do not compare the children to each other (your brother uses the potty, you need to as well) nor let others compare them.                                                                                                  ~Because there is a built-in comparison with multiples, take the word “Twin” or “Triplet” out of the situation and deal with the solutions on individual basis.  AS LONG AS EACH CHILD PROCEEDS AT HIS OR HER OWN RATE AND CONTINUES TO MEET MILESTONES, DON’T PUSH THINGS.  BRINGING UP MULTIPLES IS NOT A RACE OR COMPETITION.  Each child needs to be who they are, even in the multiple-birth setting.

Enjoy those babies and children!!!

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