I am expecting Twins/Triplets/More. Now what?

Posted on January 7, 2018. Filed under: Breastfeeding multiplies, Multiple Birth, raising multiples, simultaneous breast feeding, Triplets, Twins, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

AS SOON AS YOU KNOW you are expecting twins, triplets or more, there are some important steps to be taken.  Here goes:

-Find out if the babies are monozyotic (identical) because you need to know as soon as is possible if any of the babies have Twin–to-Twin-Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS).  EVEN WITHIN TRIPLETS, QUADRUPLETS OR MORE.  If yes, you will be under the umbrella of “High Risk” and both you and the babies will be followed very closely until birth.  Find out all you can about TTTS so that you are informed and know what questions to ask of your healthcare professionals.  My Site at http://www.jumelle.ca has an in depth article on TTTS.

-Join your local Twin and Triplet support chapter.  They will have a ton of information to share and it is nice to be with others making the same journey.  In Canada, Multiple Births Canada (MBC) has a full list of all multiple-birth support Chapters across the country.  They can be found at http://www.multiplebirthscanada.org

-Sign-up for a multiple-birth prenatal class in your community if they have one and both partners should attend.  You will get information pertinent for having twins or more.  SINGLETON PRENATAL CLASSES ARE LIMITED IN PERTINENT INFORMATION AND HAVING ONE AT A TIME IS NOT THE SAME AS HAVING TWO OR MORE AT A TIME.

-If you are considering breastfeeding your babies, sign up with a knowledgeable Lactation Consultant.  You will not be disappointed.

-Learn as much as you can ahead of time before your babies arrive so you are better prepared and receive support and resources focused on your pregnancy.

-If you are stuck at any time, ASK FOR HELP/SUPPORT.  You are not alone.  So many reliable people are here to help

-Very best wishes and enjoy your babies!!!

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In-law Conflict???

Posted on March 12, 2017. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , |

It can be difficult when in-laws continually (inadvertently?) step in with unwanted and/or negative advice and comments.  Anxiety levels can quickly go up and resentment set in. There are ways to handle things in a bridge-building manner and not having to blow your top and perhaps say things you, and they, can never take back.  In-laws are around for a long time so learning about boundaries and keeping the peace ensures that the relationship can be worked out.

One Mom reported that her mother-in-law (MIL), who moved in for 3 weeks after the babies were born, would bottle feed formula in the night even though MIL knew that Mom was trying to build her supply and needed to either feed and/or pump for her babies in order to do so.  This is sabotage, upsetting and negatively affects the plan the parents had for breastfeeding their babies.  Rather than let things fester and affect breastmilk supply, it was necessary to deal with this situation. (MIL’s explanation was:  “Well you need your sleep too and I didn’t want to wake you.”)

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Firstly, work out and agree upon with your partner a system that works for you and your family.  This way, when having the talk, both partners on the same page with no second guessing.

Check out my App Jumelle Twin, Triplet and Baby Tracking App at http://www.jumelle.ca and/or on the App Store.  With using this App, parents can easily fill out the notes, details and comments as well as keep track of breast/bottle feedings, diapers contents and sleep habits.  Having it there in black and white leaves no room for error or forgetfulness.

Secondly, I firmly believe that each parent needs to speak to their own side of the family so that tensions may not run as high or if things do get out of hand, the same side of the family may be more forgiving for the future.   So, each parent will do the majority of the talking to their own side of the family during the discussion.

Have the discussion on a day when things are going well.  Having a deep discussion on a day when things are not going well, will only add fuel to the fire.

Use a lot of “Is” in your sentences:  “I know you are trying to help, but I would really appreciate if you could come on board with working within the schedule we have found works best for our family,” or any variation of this wording/content that works for your needs.  Presented with being part of the solution and not being part of the problem is very defusing and will hopefully bring the “offender” to a better understanding of your side of the situation.

If the negativity, sabotage or judgments continue, stick to your guns and repeat the above statement.  Consistency and a united front, even if the other parent is minimally verbally involved, should eventually get the message through.

 

 

 

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Jumelle Twin and Baby Tracking App from iTunes

Posted on November 14, 2016. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Lynda,

First of all, I love this app. I’m expecting identical twin boys in January, and this is the first and only app I’ve found that can toggle between kids easily. I’ve been told I’ll need to track feeding/diapers/sleep, but if I have to remember to keep a notebook with me, I know I won’t, but my phone is of course glued to my hip.  …… even though they’re not here yet, I can already tell this app is going to make tracking things times two so much easier!

Thanks!  Amanda

Lynda’s Note:  You can find Jumelle Twin and Baby Tracking App on the Main Page of my Site at:  www.jumelle.ca

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Jumelle: The Best Twin and Baby Tracking App

Posted on April 6, 2015. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Jumelle (which means twin girls in French) has been updated – New and Improved!!!

Check it out on my Site at http://www.jumelle.ca

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