Multiple Births Canada (MBC)

Posted on November 12, 2017. Filed under: Making a Difference | Tags: , , , , , |

MBC recognizes anyone who has made a significant contribution to the world of multiples.  It could be someone in your local support Chapter, a doctor, nurse, lactation consultant, newspaper or magazine reporter, photographer, charity, organization, magazine or someone who has a made a difference for you and your family in your multiple-birth journey.  You can nominate any one whom has influenced your life.

It’s really easy.  Here is their link, complete with a list of past winners.  Please consider letting someone know how much you have appreciated their support.

http://multiplebirthscanada.org/index.php/about-us/making-a-difference/mada-2017

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Celebrating Quadruplets………

Posted on March 23, 2015. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Today is a very special milestone for these 4:

http://www.therecord.com/news-story/5519406-waterloo-parents-throw-30th-birthday-bash-for-quadruplets/

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Dionne Quintuplets

Posted on May 28, 2014. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , |

The surviving Dionne quintuplets, Annette and Cecile turn 80 years old today.  They have given Multiple Births Canada permission to celebrate Canada’s National Multiple Birth Awareness Day, today, their birthday.  With women waiting longer to have children, having more children than in the recent past and using infertility assistance, there is an increase in multiple-births.  Not only do we need to understand the unique issues challenges in raising two or more infants at the same, but we also need to ensure that what the Canadian , Provincial and local city governments made this family suffer, Never happens again!

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Jumelle Twin, Triplets, Quadruplet Baby Tracker

Posted on July 11, 2013. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

For parents with twins, triplets, quadruplets, quintuplets or two babies close together, many recognize the necessity need of a record of who did what and when and for how long.  Parents need to keep track of number of dirty diapers, feeding habits and duration, naps and bedtimes.  Such a tracking schedule can be very helpful to other caretakers (grandparents, family members, friends, nannies) who come into the house to assist with baby care.  The formal record quickly identifies which baby may be facing a challenge, e.g. constipation, and allows the caregivers to step in a timely fashion to help rectify the situation.  Careful tracking of each babies’ habits ensures that sleep-deprived parents are quickly on top of any issues with marginal room for error.

Tracking minimizes the chances of guesswork: I know someone missed a bowel movement today but which one?
The more children in the multiple-birth set, the more important accurate tracking becomes.   An additional important
issue to keep track of is if one, more or all infants are receiving medications or even vitamins.  Did I or didn’t I? and
which one?  It could be dire if a baby received two doses of medication in error.  Remove the guesswork, anxiety, possible overlap
and potential mistakes by keeping a recording schedule.
There are a couple of ways to keep track of which baby did what and it may include:
~creating a grid with each child’s name at the top, date and a list of items down the side which you would like to record
(dirty diapers, wet diapers, breastfeeding [left/right breast], duration of breastfeeding, time of nap [morning and afternoon],
duration of nap, bedtime [duration of sleep time], medications/vitamins given).
Check out the new multiple-birth Jumelle Twin and Baby Tracking App available on iTunes.  Good for iPhone and iPad,
(working on android).  This app quickly and easily tracks each baby, twin, triplet, quadruplet or quintuplet, in fact up
to 10 babies’ information can be uploaded.  JUMELLE is loaded with hints, tips and suggestions for getting through the latter part of the pregnancy,
delivery and first six weeks after the birth of your multiples.  Take a photo of each baby and upload it to the app.  Keep a record of each
baby’s teething issues, feeding habits, fevers, milestones.  There is a marvellous export feature to ensure information is shared with
multiples’ grandparents, child care centres, out of town parent, babies’ physician.  It has a nightlight feature so you can easily record what is
happening with the babies at nighttime.  Don’t struggle in a sleep-deprived fog to remember which baby, twin, triplet or quadruplet
did what.  The Jumelle Twin and Baby Tracker app keeps it all under control for you.
Lynda P. Haddon
Multiple Birth Educator

 

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Singleton Siblings of Multiples

Posted on July 12, 2010. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , |

I received this message today:

I’m 52. The impact that my twin sisters have had on my life is trememdous. As a child through high school, they hurt me over and over….not intentially. Halfway through high school, I “learned and embraced” their twin relationship, and that worked into adulthood. Now, they are still inclusive with one another and exclusive to others, including my children and my Mom. I find them to be selfish, self-centered, and caring only about each other and each other’s children. The rest of us can rot in hell. Oh, they’re kind, but it’s a image. Do I sound angry? You betcha!  I lived with it but I’ll be damned if I will allow them to do the same thing to my children!
And here are my thoughts:
Hello,
You didn’t leave your EM address so I am answering you here and hope you receive my thoughts.   I am so sorry for your pain, both for your own and that for your children.  As a mother myself, I can understand the depth and breadth of your wish to protect them.  I don’t have any definitive answers but I would like to offer a couple of thoughts, which hopefully may help you, even partially, understand about their relationship.  A multiples relationship IS a challenge.  Multiple-birth children are bonded from conception and their bond preempts the parents, other siblings and in some cases, the multiples’ ability to have other in-depth relationships other than with each other, including with spouses and sometimes their own children.   A woman recently wrote regarding the death of her twin aged 45 years and her “loss of her best friend and confident in this world” and she complained her husband would not let her speak of her sister nor support her in her grief.  She was upset by this and completely unaware that due to her overriding relationship with her twin, her husband had signed on for the back seat, always behind the twin sister and was resentful and no doubt now hoping to be No. 1 in his wife’s life.  This speaks volumes of a cloistered and very sad focus that some multiples, even inadvertently, foster to the detriment of anyone else, including spouses.  What chance might other siblings have if even those chosen as life partners don’t feel important or included?
52 years along, parents are more aware of the challenges respecting their multiples’ bond so focusing on teaching each to be individuals with separate interests and goals, is helpful but it still doesn’t always work out in spite of informed efforts.   Obviously I am not aware of how your childhood worked out, but I believe parents have some say in the matter by encouraging individualism with their multiples such as splitting them for sleep-overs, play dates, separate classrooms, sports, music and so.  Just because the children are multiples does not mean they always have to be together.  Helping them focus outside of themselves is essential for many reasons, some of which you have stated yourself, most importantly the multiples may not be the only children and parents have a responsibility to ALL their children.  I am left wondering how that played out in your house.  If your parents did not teach all of their children how to include others and what exclusion feels like, then your Mom may be now paying for this oversight by being excluded herself.
With respect to how your children are being treated/ignored by their aunts, consider having an honest conversation with your children but try not to let your anger/hurt lead the discussion.  Address how hurtful exclusionary actions can be and here are good examples.  Address alternatives to the exclusion so that your children can understand that leaving others out for any reasons, can be hurtful.  Share with them that your sisters are making choices and it is about their behaviour and not theirs.   You might wish to share that you felt left out growing up but I would encourage you, once again, to not let your own feelings, which are justified, lead the discussion.  You have a right to your feelings and if you feel it might work for you, consider some professional counselling.  You deserve some peace around this issue and its outcome and to know it is not your fault but a result of the circumstances of their birth, and if I can hazard a guess, perhaps your parents parenting style as well.  Twins were a novelty 50 years ago and their “cuteness” and “sameness” reenforced rather than the fact  they were also individuals.
I recently read an excellent book, One and The Same by Abigail Pogrebin published by Doubleday.  Abby is a monozygotic (identical) twin and she writes about the challenges and joys of her relationship her twin sister.  If you thought it would also help you understand a little more about the burden (yes, it sounds to me as if your sisters are burdened by their twinship) they carry, give it a read.  In truth, you are freer than they are and based on what you are sharing, I would believe that sadly they are very limited by their relationship.
Enclosing very best wishes,
Lynda
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