Multiples and Postpartum Depression

Posted on May 18, 2017. Filed under: raising multiples, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , |

This topic is Multiple Births Canada’s upcoming 28th May, 2017 subject for Multiple Birth Awareness Day (see http://www.multiplesbirthscanada.org for more information).  While Postpartum Depression (PPD) can be a big issue for parents of singletons, parents of multiples can take a big hit with PPD and talking about it is an important step for any Mother to getting help.

Here is a personal story posted by Birth Without Fear and this Mom’s experience is a well-written article addressing PPD.  Check it out here: http://birthwithoutfearblog.com/2017/05/17/i-sank-deeper-deeper-a-story-of-postpartum-depression/

Thank you to Birth Without Fear for shedding some light on a topic that many new Moms face and which still contains some stigma.  PPD is a disease, can be treated and affects everyone in the family.

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The Truth and Nothing But The Truth…..

Posted on February 16, 2017. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , |

Posted on Instagram yesterday by “thebump.”  Just loved it, although adapted it to fit our particular situation:

“Growing humans makes me feel like a superhero.  A very tired, weak superhero that wants to eat all the time and isn’t allowed to lift heavy objects.”    Unknown

thebump’s notation is equally on the mark:  “Pregnancy is both empowering and exhausting.”

Never lose your sense of humour!!!

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“I want to have twins……”.

Posted on November 5, 2013. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Fairly often a woman will ask how she can conceive twins.  It goes along the lines that her whole life she has wished to have twins and how can she achieve this state?  There are no guarantees, although there are some things that could put things in your favour:

1.  The closer twins (or more) are to you in your Family Tree, the more likely you are to have them;

2.  On the other hand, twins need to start somewhere on the Family Tree, so you could be the lucky one;

3.  If you have already had a couple of children, you could conceive multiples;

4. Dizygotic (fraternal) twins are hereditary down the mother’s line because the mother has ‘dropped’ more than one egg in her menstrual cycle;

5. Chances go up of a woman expecting twins (or more) after the age of 30 years, and even greater chances of conceiving multiples as a woman ages;

6.  Multiples do NOT necessarily skip a generation (that is an Old Wives’ Tale);

7.  If you have conceived multiples spontaneously once, your chances rise again by about 50% of conceiving them again (good piece of information to be aware of); and

8.  If you are using infertility assistance, you have a good chance of conceiving multiples.

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Jumelle Twin, Triplets, Quadruplet Baby Tracker

Posted on July 11, 2013. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

For parents with twins, triplets, quadruplets, quintuplets or two babies close together, many recognize the necessity need of a record of who did what and when and for how long.  Parents need to keep track of number of dirty diapers, feeding habits and duration, naps and bedtimes.  Such a tracking schedule can be very helpful to other caretakers (grandparents, family members, friends, nannies) who come into the house to assist with baby care.  The formal record quickly identifies which baby may be facing a challenge, e.g. constipation, and allows the caregivers to step in a timely fashion to help rectify the situation.  Careful tracking of each babies’ habits ensures that sleep-deprived parents are quickly on top of any issues with marginal room for error.

Tracking minimizes the chances of guesswork: I know someone missed a bowel movement today but which one?
The more children in the multiple-birth set, the more important accurate tracking becomes.   An additional important
issue to keep track of is if one, more or all infants are receiving medications or even vitamins.  Did I or didn’t I? and
which one?  It could be dire if a baby received two doses of medication in error.  Remove the guesswork, anxiety, possible overlap
and potential mistakes by keeping a recording schedule.
There are a couple of ways to keep track of which baby did what and it may include:
~creating a grid with each child’s name at the top, date and a list of items down the side which you would like to record
(dirty diapers, wet diapers, breastfeeding [left/right breast], duration of breastfeeding, time of nap [morning and afternoon],
duration of nap, bedtime [duration of sleep time], medications/vitamins given).
Check out the new multiple-birth Jumelle Twin and Baby Tracking App available on iTunes.  Good for iPhone and iPad,
(working on android).  This app quickly and easily tracks each baby, twin, triplet, quadruplet or quintuplet, in fact up
to 10 babies’ information can be uploaded.  JUMELLE is loaded with hints, tips and suggestions for getting through the latter part of the pregnancy,
delivery and first six weeks after the birth of your multiples.  Take a photo of each baby and upload it to the app.  Keep a record of each
baby’s teething issues, feeding habits, fevers, milestones.  There is a marvellous export feature to ensure information is shared with
multiples’ grandparents, child care centres, out of town parent, babies’ physician.  It has a nightlight feature so you can easily record what is
happening with the babies at nighttime.  Don’t struggle in a sleep-deprived fog to remember which baby, twin, triplet or quadruplet
did what.  The Jumelle Twin and Baby Tracker app keeps it all under control for you.
Lynda P. Haddon
Multiple Birth Educator

 

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Treating multiples as individuals

Posted on July 2, 2013. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , |

A good rule of thumb when dealing with twins, triplets or more and you are having challenges with behaviour, bedtimes, mealtimes, curfews, allowances and so much more, is to ignore the fact that they are multiples and ask yourself:  “how would I handle things if they were singleton children?”  Very often treating each child as an individual with individual interests, focuses, ideas, behaviour, growth and more, offers the solution.  Example:  a mother with triplets, two girls and a boy, shared that her son required less sleep (they were 15 months old) than her daughters and as they were all in the same room, he woke earlier and then bugged his sisters until they woke up.  In essence she was left with 3 cranky children for different reasons (one had no playmate and the other two needed more sleep time).  I advised that she had a natural split between the 3 and that at a certain point they would need to separate the children for privacy reasons, why not do it sooner rather than later?  She responded, “But they are triplets…..”   The parents were so stuck on the fact that they were triplets and ‘needed’ to be together, that they were unable to see that the children needed, quite early in their lives already, a different response for their individual needs.  If they had all been singletons, I suspect the answer of giving them separate rooms would have been more obvious.  Multiples do not need to be together just because they are multiples.  They need to separated for little periods of time to get used to being separate and enjoying the freedom of discovering their own interests and abilities; and they need to be together when there are family events, special occasions, mealtimes and so on, just like any of our children with benefit from.  Cheers!

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Questions NOT to ask multiples!!

Posted on August 21, 2012. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , |

There are some questions that multiples just Hate to be asked.  Here are a few:

Whose smarter?

Double Trouble!

Why aren’t you more like your twin (triplet)?

Do you complete each other’s sentences?

Can you read each other’s minds?

Do you have the same friends?

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Are they spontaneous or did you have help?

Posted on August 21, 2012. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , |

It isn’t unusual for folks, even strangers, to want to know if your babies were ‘natural’ or did you have help conceiving them, even when it is none of their business.  Firstly, I prefer ‘spontaneous’ over ‘natural.’   ‘Natural’ makes it feel that if infertility assistance was used, those babies are ‘unnatural.’  Some multiples are spontaneously conceived and some are conceived with some type of infertility assistance and how they were conceived is no one’s business other than the parents, who may or may not wish to share that background information.  Indicating that you would rather not discuss the topic to the stranger in the mall who asked, is your right.  Doesn’t have to be rude, angry or aggressive, just a “that is a subject we prefer not to discuss,” is perfectly acceptable.

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Supplementing dilemma

Posted on January 27, 2012. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , |

It isn’t widely understood that after a baby’s suckles, the breasts are not “empty” as many people think they might be.  Breasts never completely empty after a feed.  Pumping for multiples after breastfeeding is very common with Moms of multiples and what is collected is saved, frozen and ready to use at another time.  There won’t be a huge supply, but you can collect anywhere from maybe 1/2 ounce to 1 ounce additional milk.  A bonus is that when pumping, your breasts are receiving the message that there is a greater demand and therefore the supply increases.  Some Moms feels the need, and their babies indicate the need, to supplement.  It is helpful to keep in mind that each time we supplement, we are by passing the message to our breasts of a greater demand, so it can feel necessary to continue supplementing due to ‘lack of supply.’  Supplementing can set up a vicious circle and cause Mom much anxiety as she may feel her babies are hungary and she really doesn’t have enough milk.  Breast feeding the babies as they need/demand will, over 2-4 days, increase the milk supply to satisfy them.

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Please vote for Multiple Births Canada

Posted on November 15, 2011. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , |

Multiple Births Canada has needed a new website for some time.

We may have found a way to get the donation to fund it from AVIVA.
All we need to do is get all our friends and family – and their friends and family – to vote for our project idea for the next 15 days.

Would you please consider helping us?  You register once with your email address (and create a password – use “twinsplus” so it’s easy to remember).  After that you just sign in and vote for the idea – which takes about 15 seconds a day.

Here’s the link with the details:
http://www.avivacommunityfund.org/ideas/acf13028

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PLEASE VOTE FOR MULTIPLE BIRTHS CANADA

Posted on November 15, 2011. Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: , , , |

Multiple Births Canada has needed a new website for some time.

We may have found a way to get the donation to fund it from AVIVA.
All we need to do is get all our friends and family – and their friends and family – to vote for our project idea for the next 15 days.

Would you please consider helping us? You register once with your email address (and create a password – use “twinsplus” so it’s easy to remember). After that you just sign in and vote for the idea – which takes about 15 seconds a day.

Here’s the link with the details:
http://www.avivacommunityfund.org/ideas/acf13028

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