I feel sad about breast feeding…..

Posted on May 1, 2017. Filed under: Breastfeeding multiplies, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Let me clarify.  I feel sad because some women seem to need to loudly, strongly, rightly and aggressively defend their desire to breastfeed until forever, or nurse in public for that matter.  My sadness comes from the”aggressively” part.  I think women and their children have a right to breast feed as long as it works for them without judgement, harassment or any negativity whatsoever.  I believe a nursing woman has the right to breast feed whenever and wherever she or her baby or babies need, as long as the location is safe for all.  Preferably not while a climbing a cliff, as an example.  LOL Adults eat in public, why shouldn’t babies and infants have the same rights and expectations?

I like to think that I am a bridge builder and a teacher.  My problem is when a woman begins to fight and declare her, and her child’s rights, even before there is a battle to be fought.  That attitude is not a teaching one nor a bridge-building one and, in fact, most encounters will end up with no winners.  If you go looking for trouble, trust me, you will find it.

I would suggest waiting until each and every obstacle presents itself and gently stopping the person and asking them to come on board and be a part of a solution and not a part of a problem.  Start with family and friends and explain, each and every time, that this is what your family has chosen and you would love them to be positive throughout this journey.  Stopping negativity in a loving, caring, teaching way is the goal.  There will always be someone who objects, shouts, judges, declares, and lots of other things, but we don’t have to play that game.  We do not have to roar, respond, justify, give tit or tat (pardon the pun).  As Michelle Obama says “When they go low, we go high.”  When one walks with a Big Stick, one risks tripping over it.

It saddens me that women angrily anticipate negativity about nursing in public or the age their children should be weaned at.  It isn’t any one else’s business but that particular family’s and whatever that family chooses in regards to breastfeeding won’t change what you have for supper, so don’t fight BEFORE there is a fight.  Do what women do best:  Teach, show patience, tolerance, love, smile, be firm and gentle.  All of this goes along with, IMO, tons of strength.

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